Willpower - Where Does it Go?

Willpower, the ability to control oneself and determine one's actions, displaying self-control within and without. 

Hey - that's a great quote, isn't it?  I snagged it from this place 20 Inspirational Quotes on Willpower.

It's a great place for inspiration and motivational sayings and I hope you will find something useful there, if you are interested.

But here's something you may not know:  willpower isn't always on-call (The One Thing, by Gary Keller), in fact, it's like a battery that starts out full in the morning and gets used up as the day goes on. Ya got no control over that, it is simply a biological fact of the human brain.

So, if you actually DO run out of willpower, would that explain why you snack more in the evening?  Why you just can't muster any energy (willpower?) to go to the gym after work?  Why you can't be polite to your last few customers of the day when you've had one heck of a stressful day?

Keller advises us, that through research, it's been discovered that willpower is like fast-twitch muscle that gets tired and needs rest.  He tells us that the food we eat is also a key player in level of will power, and that studies show gloucose levels are affected by willpower tasks/testing.  He says that to do our best, we literally have to feed our minds and that food that elevates blood sugar more evenly over long periods, like complex carbohydrates and proteins, become fuel of choice for high-achievers.

So why do YOU care? Well, you ARE trying to manifest your best life ever, aren't you?  Then wouldn't it be helpful to understand how willpower works?  As I referenced above, the book titled "The One Thing" may be something you find helpful on your manifesting journey.

In fact, just knowing that you aren't a failure because you can't seem to muster up any more willpower at certain times, should help you schedule your day and manage your willpower resources more successfully.

All the lovely posters and quotes can't do a thing for you if your willpower muscle is depleted.

I hope you found something here to add to your success toolbox.  Go out and do some research on willpower.  Study your willpower cycles and see what you think.  I'd love to hear your thoughts, so I hope you do comment, and I do hope that you are on your way to manifesting your best life ever!

Jackie


*Note: any item, book, system, tool or resource that is discussed on my blog is NOT connected to me financially in any way.  I do not get a $ per click, or a piece of any sale from anyone.  I have specifically designed the blog so that no ads (that I can control) are connected to it.  It is my intention to bring you ideas and resources for your best life ever, and it is not my intent to profit from latching onto other people's products, which is completely fine for some, but is not what my posts are about.

Why I do Readings

Well, that’s an interesting question isn’t it? I’ve asked myself this many times as I dipped my psychic toes in the waters of “for pay” consulting, wondering why I would even subject myself to all the hushed whispers and rolling eyes, when I could more easily sit in my sewing room and make cute baby booties and cool Renaissance garb and present myself as “completely normal”.

Ya huh.  Completely normal.😉

I suppose it all comes down to this; the information I am able to receive might be very helpful to someone, so how can I NOT do readings for people?  

The information I have access to, however it manages to push its way though to me (I keep checking my head for little hidden antennas), is very specific and always helps someone address a question in their life.  I can see it in their face, through their tears, and in some cases, people reach out to me months later to tell me how the reading affected their path.

Now, don’t make a mistake and think for one minute that I tell people what to do.  I never say that they must move, must leave a job or partner, or go to buy a house/cat/pumpkin.  Nope.  Not my job.  

My job is to show people information that is just out of their reach, just out of their normal thoughts and help them ask themselves enough of the right questions to find their own answers.And 

In my own life, I had a very gifted woman psychic tell me that one day, I’d meet a man who’s short name started with B and that he’d change every aspect of my life, from my work, to my circle of friends, to my finances.  She also described my children to a T, and my then-current relationship as if she was my best friend for years, even knowing some very private stuff that I’d never told a single person.  Oh, and it was a spur of the moment reading at an event I just happened upon so she could not have known a thing about me.

So, while it was erie that she nailed my current situation, I dismissed her prediction until two years later when I met a guy named Ben, who hired me, and well, the rest is exactly as she predicted.  We have just celebrated our 18th wedding anniversary and everything about my life did change.

My personal gifts of knowing, hearing and seeing don’t fall into that realm...yet. They are growing stronger and more diverse, must be the “elderly wise sage” time of my life!

So, while I am blessed to have this ability to help people, I’m going to do it.  With bells on and a sense of humor and a blind eye and deaf ear to the naysayers and critics.  When ya know what ya know, you just don’t need to prove yourself 

How To Ask The Right Questions

This weekend I had the opportunity to read for 17 people, all in one day at a beautiful event called Awaken Toledo.  The event was filled with gifted readers, vendors and eye-opening presenters as well as some food and fun stuff!

I'd like to tell you the amazing stories of the people who trusted me with their energy, but I can't.  That's all private stuff, but what I can tell you is something that might help YOU with your manifesting, readings, or sorting things out with your intuition.

Most people think they want a "general" reading and they are in denial that there isn't some question they want to ask, some specific thing they need guidance on and it's my job to help them ask the right question so they can begin to find their own answers.  I don't have THEIR answers but I can give them tools, start them on a path, and give them insight to the energy around a particular issue. 

So, I start a "general" reading by telling them to think of the reason why they are sitting in that chair in front of me, but ask them NOT to tell me.  In fact, the less I know the better for me. Even if a person has a very specific, I always start a reading not knowing what that question is about.

At the end of the first part of each reading, I always ask "does this make sense to you?" and if they say no, I ask "really? There is NOT ONE question on your mind that you want guidance on?  Surely, if there wasn't ONE thing on your mind, you'd be shopping at the mall or at the park right now!"  then, BOOM! they say something like "Well, what I was really wondering is..." and there you have it.  They did come for a specific reason, but were afraid to say it out loud. (hah - I knew it!)

Now that the reading is over, mostly, and now that I know WHY they are sitting in front of me, I repeat the reading, just as it was given the first time around, and ask "does this make sense now?" and it almost always does in a profound way for the client.  Like throwing water on them, waking them up and giving them permission to think and talk about their secret question.

That kind of general reading (from my point of view) rarely gives a person a clear-as-a-bell prediction of their future, which is what most of them come for, but not what happens.  

What happens next, is I teach them how to ask their own higher self for deep, clear, and meaningful communication by asking a good question.  I'll show you how it works.

First off, don't ask either/or questions.  If a client says "what I want to know is, should I move to Alaska or Georgia or stay here?", that's an incomplete request to the Universe/Higher self.  The Universe doesn't do well with multiple choice quizzes!

The way to get the best answer is to ask yourself why do you want to move? What are you trying to get?  Consider some possible "whys" of moving; I want to move to:

• have better health
• be more financially stable
• be happier all around
• find peace
• rest and restore my spirit
• find new vitality and energy

Do you see how the question changes and clarifies itself?  Everyone of the reasons above may get a different answer. 

You also have to put some parameters on it, to help narrow down the answer you are looking for.  For example: should I move to Florida for my health......when?  Maybe you should move, but you might get a NO response from a reading because the timing isn't right NOW if you are asking about better health, but maybe the move should be now if you are looking for more financial stability.  Get it?

A good question might be: should I move to Florida in the next 12 to 18 months for my best possible health?

Another might be:  Is moving to Florida now, going to give me the best possible health outcome?

Are you starting to get it?  

Only 4 out of 17 customers formulated great, detailed questions before their readings, and for each of them, their readings were direct, specific and they quickly understood them enough to say to me "that answers my questions!" even without disclosing their private question to me.

The rest of the 13 needed guidance to be able to voice their question in the way that was most meaningful to them, and yet they still stopped short of filling in all the important details, especially the "why" did they want this or that. As we did the exercises of why/when/what do you want, it was like light bulbs going off as they found clarity in their questions and search for guidance. It also became clear that those questions were the hardest for them to allow to come to surface.  Especially, this one:  I want IT because I want to be happy. 

So, when you are looking for answers, don't just ask "should I stay or should I go", instead ask "if I stay, will this be the best possible option for my happiness/health/prosperity, etc."

I hope you learned a bit about yourself today, and if you'd like a reading, please contact me.  I just might be able to help you manifest your Best Life Ever!

xox

Jackie

And so it begins!

Thoughts become things, which you probably knew, but what you may not know is that you seldom get to decide WHEN or HOW those things come to you, which is why this blog is so long in coming!

Many of you already know that I've been doing psychic readings privately for years now, and that I have recently decided to "go public" to do readings, workshops and lectures in a business-sort of way. 

I guess it's time to hang my shingle on a virtual storefront declaring "Now Open!". This thought came to me many years ago, and now, in the most exciting part of my lifetime, it has manifested in it's full glory, ready to go! 

As Mike Dooley (one of my manifesting heroes) said, you can't control the "cursed hows" of manifesting a thing, so just show up every day and do anything you can with what you have from where you are toward your thought/idea/project/dream and it HAS to show up - sometime!

As I look at my readings and connections to the Universe's energy, including our family and friends on the other side, I have come to the understanding that my particular soul needed to have LIVED life before I could be in a position to receive and deliver soul messages.  I get some pretty deep and intense stuff, and people are trusting me to deliver real guidance, not from my own ego, my own self, but from their higher self or their guides, and that took some real growing on my part. 


So, that is why this Grand Opening was delayed so long.  

I want to keep my posts short and sweet so that you can get on with thinking your thoughts and manifesting your BEST LIFE EVER! and not get bogged with tons stuff to dig through to find the meat of the material that you are looking for.  

I hope you find something of value here.  Please ask questions, please comment and please share.  It's taken me a while, but look - I manifested YOU, right here, right now, reading this!  

Gotcha!

Thoughts Become things, so think the best thoughts ever!

xox

Jackie

PS - If you'd like a private reading, or have an interest in a lecture or workshop, just contact me at jgoffsylvania@aol.com/